For years, opportunities for women have been marginalized across
the board. Ranging anywhere from education, to careers, to politics,
women have been disproportionately recognized along various domains.
Thankfully, the feminist movement has done wonders to empower our women,
thereby giving them opportunities that were at one time, but a mere
fantasy. But despite their best efforts, being an "independent woman"
still has its challenges for many. Some women are first generations of
the "independent women era" and therefore have limited role modeling.
Others have had sufficient role modeling, but lack the self-confidence
that an "independent woman" exudes. Whatever the limitations that
prohibit many women from reaching their status of being "independent
women," this is the article for them. Here, you will find a few
strategies that can be utilized in order to position you to be the
"independent woman" that you are destined to be.
All
"independent women" must be able to trust themselves. You will
experience all types of obstacles, many of which will encourage you to
lack confidence in your own beliefs and abilities. Understand that all
"independent women" will experience barriers like this, but believing
that you can overcome them will help you to do so. No one is going to
believe in you, if you cannot believe in yourself.
Next, do your
research. Ask yourself, what is it that you would like to do with your
life? Be sure that whatever it is, it is something that you have chosen
for yourself, and not something that has been chosen for you. Then
research everything that you can about it. Research things like the
skill set required to do it, the training that is necessary to fulfill
it, the type of people (personalities, experiences, etc.) who do it.
This is useful whether you want to be a lawyer, a doctor, a wife, and/or
a mother. Basically, the term "independent woman," means whatever
"independence" is for the woman experiencing it. By researching as much
as you can about whatever an "independent woman" means to you, the more
prepared you will be to become one.
Avoid people who are
counterproductive to your goals of becoming an "independent woman."
Sadly, despite your best efforts, you will meet people who just don't
believe in your goals, or people who will try to interfere with them. As
painful as this may be, maintaining a relationship with these people,
will only make meeting your goals harder. A metaphor for this type of
relationship is the "crab mentality." The "crab mentality" basically
makes the following comparison between crabs and people. Imagine a
bucket full of crabs. As some crabs try to get out, other crabs below
them try to pull them down. This is how women sometimes treat other
women who are trying to become "independent women." Maintaining these
relationships with "crabs" will do nothing but make your pursuit to
upward mobility that much more challenging. It might be difficult to
break off these relationships, but you will find that once this is done,
your pursuit to independence will be that much greater.
While you
are avoiding people who are counterproductive to your goals, find
people who are compatible with your goals. For instance, if you want to
be married, but you've gotten a lot of negative advice about marriage
from either unmarried or unhappily married people, find some people who
are happily married. If you want to develop your own business, try to
steer away from the friend who is discouraging you from opening one
because she chooses to work in her father's business instead of doing
something "independent" for herself. In other words, there are people in
this world who are like minded... if you're finding that those whom you
surround yourself with are not, then pick a new group of friends! Your
independence depends on it.
The act of being an "independent woman" is something that most
women desire. But truth be told, it's not as easy as it may seem. If you
would like further assistance with becoming an "independent woman,"
please contact me at http://www.connieomari.com. I look forward to assisting you!
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